This impromptu blog, like all enraged and emotive rants, has been brought to you by social media: the best and worst thing to happen to humanity.
I am all for feminism, building self-esteem and accepting differences – what kind of monster would I be if I didn’t? But I do have an issue with those who clumsily try to incorporate all of these messages in one fell swoop by posting shit like this:
I believe these quotes are not only nauseatingly insincere but incredibly detrimental to the mental well-being of vulnerable people. These quotes are not offering good advice, helping you to better yourself or making the world a better place; they’re giving you permission to accept yourself, which isn’t something you should need from anyone else in the first place. It is exactly what sexists, misogynists and bullies do to gain control.
These quotes are telling you it’s okay to be curvy/heavy/fat…but this is not okay if you’re morbidly unhealthy, surely?
These quotes are telling you it’s okay not to look like a model…even though beauty is a completely subjective concept anyway. It is also suggesting that models are the epitome of beauty, but what even is beauty? Why is beauty important? Why should anyone’s goal in life involve others imagining having sex with them?
These quotes are telling you being different is okay…but only when it comes to appearance. This doesn’t include deviations from social norms (and I would hope extremism, illegal or harmful perversions as well).
These quotes are telling you that you can do anything and be whoever you want to be as long as you’re happy…even though that’s bollocks. Some things take work and sacrifice. Some things are beyond your reach. Some things you want will hurt others if you get them. Some things just don’t work out.
The internet continually tries to communicate complex ideas with simple one-liners and sweeping statements just because it looks aesthetically pleasing and cannot be construed as offensive in any way. To combat these repulsive messages, I have made a few of my own. I hope you enjoy them.